Now, stop letting your mind go here and there. I am trying to know, how to just manage those equations between you and your partner to just be perfect and love blossom over and again, after n number of years of you both being together…. That ‘new’, ‘fresh’ emotions would take a back seat after many years of you both being together… but the point is how to re-invent the same… let us see;
Sit down with your partner for no more than five minutes. Take a deep breath before you begin, erase all doubt, blame or fear from your mind as you can, and think about how much you used to love your partner. Look him straight in the eye and tell him how much you miss feeling intimate and close. Tell him that you both need, deserve, want more than you're getting out of the relationship, and that you want to change things from the current comfortable existence you share, into something more loving, exciting and fun than you ever thought possible. Then, if you feel like it, give him a quick hug or a kiss, and move on to something else. Let him think about what you've just said, and don't force him to respond. Just let him know, and leave it at that for now.
Think back to when you first started dating: what types of things and experiences did you do together? What made him laugh, what did you both enjoy, why you fall in love? Take those experiences now, and try to create something simple and fun in the same spirit. You don't need to recreate it exactly, and you'll want to start with something small. Aim for one of these events, outings or experiences once a week, with no other intention than to have some fun, laugh together, and enjoy each other's company again without talking about your relationship.
When you're first falling in love, your partner fascinates you and you want to linger on their every word. So a quick and simple way to increase the loving feelings between you and your boyfriends, and just maybe fall in love again, is to spend more time looking him in the eye when you're talking.
A few books explain the concept of fighting fairly in a relationship, but none (in my opinion) as well as Don't Break Up, Make Up, by Dr. Bonnie Weil. In it, the therapist explains in great detail what you need to do and when you need to do it to save your relationship, including identifying your relationship styles, how to communicate with your partner about contentious issues, and how to fall back in love again. research says that success, being that the couples not only fell back in love, but found a deeper and more meaningful connection than they'd ever shared before.
Every time you are bored of your relationship or your partner, just try filling the relationship and the atmosphere around you with fun and happiness. This way you would be re – inventing your life, with the person whom you loved the most once…
Above all, just believe in living that day… plan and think of tomorrow, but just live that day to the fullest…. Kalkyahoga, kisnejaana!
