One of the most interesting and yet difficult thing to find out is if your guy is interested in you, loves you or not… Interesting as this is a matter related to heart. Difficult because you still not sure neither proposed to him, nor did he to you. Yet, there is a interest to know what is running in his mind about you… let me jot down some examples below. If at least more than 3 of them are matching to that of a behavior of your Man, then you can be sure on going ahead with the next level in your relationship with him;
If a man really cares about you, he becomes creative in showing how much he loves you. As the object of his affection, you will know whether your man is going the extra mile to show you how much he cares for you. On the other hand, if you find yourself doing all the work and the romance, you may be in for the harsher realties of unrequited love.
Does your man call you when he says he will? Does he show up when he days he will? If your answer to both is no, isn’t it time you ask yourself why you are putting up with him? Answer to yourself to know the best answer that would suit your situation.
Simply said, he accepts you as a total person with all your imperfections and failings. He may have fallen in love with you based on first impressions that you failed to sustain but he still accepts you, just the same.
I am not talking of big bucks or impressive gifts. Generosity is a relative term and should be applied relatively. If your man does not earn a lot of money, he may not spend a lot, but when he does, you will sense his joy in giving and making you happy. On the other hand, if your man does not give you gifts or insists that you pay halfway all the time even if he is financially capable, you can assume that he isn’t looking at you as a partner yet.
I hate to be literal about it, but it’s the only way to take it. A man who is seriously committed to you will no longer be romantically interested in other women. If he believes in “keeping his options open”, you can assume he is not yet set on you. A man who has wandering eyes and openly admires other women even when you are together is not only uncommitted, he also does not respect you. You can consider leaving him permanently to give him time for his wanderlust.
He wants to know what is going on in your life, in your studies, in your career. He supports your ambitions and encourages you to pursue your dream. If your man does not even know what you do, looks bored when you tell him stories about your life and your friends, he may only be interested in himself.
If your man calls you only to cancel a date, or worse does not even call you, he is not your man. If he is as involved as you are in your relationship, he will call you frequently, for the most mundane reasons, just to let you know that you are “connected” and that he is thinking of you.
If your man does nothing but criticize you or put you down, ditch him posthaste. I am not saying that he should have nothing but praises for you. But if his words and actions are all meant to put you down and make you feel bad about yourself, you are better off without this man. Words like “You are ugly”, “You are fat”, “No one else will take you”, “You are so stupid” are very harmful for your self-esteem and will have negative long-term effects on your psyche.
